Sex Is Everything – Stella Damasus

Popular Nollywood actress Stella Damasus-Aboderin(born April 24, 1978) is a Nigerian actress and singer. She was nominated forBest Actress in a Leading Roleat theAfrican Movie Academy Awards in 2009.As at present, Stella Damasus’ marital status is not really clear. While there have have been claims that she is now married to DanielAdeminokan, it has not yet been confirmed beyond doubt.What is clear however is that she has been accused of being a husband snatcher who stole her colleague’s husband, thereby leading to the crash of the colleague’s marriage.What is also clear is that she was married to Jaiye Aboderin, and the marriage was successful, but sadly, Jaiye died. It might therefore be based on her known successful marriage that she has deemed it fit to advice married ladies on how to keep their husbands. And according to her, the realistic way to do so is to keep the husbands satisfied sexually. Without mincing words, she reached out to married women through the words below.“This is for the married women. Please this is not targeted at singlegirls. “Now we know that the one thing men cannot live without apartfrom money is sex. I do not understand therefore why women, especially Africans, do not talk about sex when we know that it is the one thing we do regularly with so much pleasure.“Anyway our men love sex to the max and weknow that for a fact. So how come when we are dati n g them we are so willing to give themwhat they want even though we know itis wrong.The first few years of marriage is filled with sex almost five times a day in different parts of the house and at odd hours,but after the few years we start to back down,we start to make excuses, we start to see it as a chore and then we let them know that we are really not interested in them physically.“I know that most of you will say I have kids who wear me out, I have work that drains me,I got older, my sex drive has gone under, I have a headache, to the point that the manwill need to get a visa at your embassy to visit his favourite placein the world.“When you do this to him, how do you expecthim to come home everyday to look at your tired, grumpy and unfriendly face? “How would you expect him to come home to you complaining about theplumber, your child that was being rude, and your boss that gaveyou a hard time? “At that point he wants you to take him to that special place were the skyis so wonderful and turn his brain around to the point that all you say will sound likesweet music to his ears.“These men are human beings whogo through their own challenges, half of which you don’t even know because they are trying to save youfrom all the stress. “What annoysme the most is when we women start to complain and nag about the men not having time for us, and how they no longer find us attractive anymore and that’s where the suspicion starts. That’s when the saying comes that if he isnot getting it from me, someone else must be giving it to him. “I don’t encourage cheating at all.